Family Members on the Naughty List?

By Associate Attorney Katy Currie

As the holiday season rolls around, our focus often shifts to spreading joy, giving gifts, and cherishing time with loved ones. However, amidst the festive cheer, there might be family dynamics that don't always align with the holiday spirit. If you find certain family members perpetually landing on the metaphorical “naughty list,” it might be time to consider updating your estate plan to ensure your wishes are safeguarded regardless of family conflicts or disputes.
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If certain family members have a history of conflicts or strained relationships, it's crucial to communicate your intentions clearly in your estate plan. Explicitly outlining your decisions regarding asset distribution, guardianship, or decision-making authority in your estate plan can help avoid ambiguity and potential disputes. In some cases, you may want to explore options to protect your assets or ensure they are utilized according to your wishes, especially if you are concerned about how certain family members might handle their inheritance.

Without a will or living trust, your assets would pass according to the intestacy laws of North Carolina. This takes away the control you have over who inherits when you pass away and could have huge implications on your loved ones. Additionally, in North Carolina, a will is the only way to name a guardian for your minor children in the event that both parents pass away.

Furthermore, some people may require more complex estate planning depending on their family situation (such as second marriages, a child with special needs, or care of minor children) and the type and amount of their assets. Estate planning through devices such as living trusts allows you to put plans in place to address the specific needs of your beneficiaries, avoid the probate process, and address more complex tax issues depending on your assets.

Finally, a comprehensive estate plan not only plans for what happens after death, but also addresses who would be responsible for making decisions on your behalf if you became incapacitated during your lifetime. This includes naming someone to make financial decisions on your behalf and someone to make medical decisions on your behalf. Without such a plan, your family may have to go through more drastic and expensive court proceedings to have you deemed legally incompetent by a judge.

While it's essential to address concerns about family dynamics in your estate planning, doing so should be approached with careful consideration and guidance from professionals. The goal is not only to protect your assets but also to ensure your intentions are upheld and respected, even in challenging family situations.

As you prepare for the holiday season, take a moment to consider the importance of estate planning in securing the future for yourself and your loved ones, even when navigating the complexities of family dynamics. If you approach the topic with honesty, care, and thoughtfulness, it could help you get the ball rolling on making important decisions for your estate plan that will have a positive impact on your family for years to come.

Jesson & Rains, PLLC wishes you a joyous holiday season filled with love, laughter, and thoughtful planning for the future!